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How To Survive The Waiting Time


You did it! You finally went on one of the A Foreign Affair Romance Tours, you met the love of your life, you had the time of your life, and the time has come to start the fiancée visa process. And suddenly it hits you - this is going to take a bit longer than I thought. That's when the questions and fears start to take on a life of their own and you start to feel uneasy. How will I keep the relationship going? …is she going to believe that I'm truly serious because this is taking so long? …is she going to get "cold feet"? …am I going to get "cold feet"? … is she going to meet someone else?

After 9/11 a lot of things changed in the USA - including the fiancée visa process. More security checks are now required and the effective time to get your fiancée here has lengthened from 3 to 4 months to around 6 to 9 months. This increased time to wait also increases your apprehension about what you are doing - it heightens your stress level, it may cause you to loose sleep, eat more, complain more, and simply just become more frustrated. (The good news is that the processing times should start to become shorter again as soon as the filing fee for the fiancée visa is raised from $110 to $165 and additional people are added to the service centers.)

Be positive and do not dwell on the fact that it may take bit longer than you originally expected. Negative thinking breeds more negativity and will confuse you. The thing that you have to remember is that your final goal is getting closer with each passing day. Although it may seem like it's taking forever, the time will quickly pass but, what is the best way keep the relationship alive while you're waiting?

Communication is the key.

Writing to your fiancée by e-mail is great but actually receiving a letter in the mail is also very important. It's like the difference in receiving a picture of a rose and actually receiving a rose. When she receives the letter from you she is receiving a present from you and she'll share it with her family and her friends and most likely carry it with her and read it over and over again.

Phone calls are also important to keep your relationship going. Hearing her voice makes you feel good inside and comforted and, for your fiancée, hearing your voice does the same for her. She can hear the emotion in your voice, the tenderness in the words you say to her and she can feel your sincerity. Suddenly you're not as far apart as you were just before you called and she'll play that conversation over and over again in her head - and you'll be doing the same.

Start planning what you'll do when she gets here, as well as what you need to do before she gets here - and keep her informed. You'll be surprised how long and how much planning a small project can take. Are you going to redecorate or paint or add new tile? Whatever it is, let her know. She will enjoy being part of the process even though she is not here yet, and you will again be building on your commitment to her and your approaching life together. Also, it will fuel more conversation in the future when she asks how everything is going.

Look again and again at the pictures taken of her and of the two of you together. Tell your fiancée you have done it, or that you are doing it as you're speaking or writing to her. Talk about where you were when the photo was taken and how you were feeling. Place her photo on your computer so that each time you turn on your computer you see her. Have her picture on your refrigerator - especially if it's a funny one of her eating pizza - so you again think of her as you go about your everyday life. What you're doing is reliving the experiences that made you fall in love in the first place, and at the same time you're making that love stronger and reinforcing it.

Try to learn some conversational Russian. This is not an easy language and if you can learn just a little this will really impress her family - especially her father. He may never say this to you but, believe me, he would really like to speak directly to you. (My future father-in-law did say this to me.) After all, you're going to be the husband of his little girl and he wants a relationship with you. When you call your fiancée - and her parents answer and you ask for her in Russian - they will laugh and smile and most likely try to answer you in English. This will go on for a short time before you both get to a point where you don't understand each other anymore and you both just start to laugh. This brings all of you closer together - especially you and your fiancée.

Remember March 8th. This is International Woman's Day and it's a much bigger holiday there than Valentine's Day. This day is celebrated all over the world and is a day to honor women. Telling someone that she is "special" and that "she means the world to you" can be magic for both of you. If you cannot be with her on this day, call her. Send her flowers. Let her know how special she is to you. You can't do this too much.

Above all, remember to say those magic words: "I Love You." Tell her every time you speak with her, every time you write to her, and say it to yourself every time you think of her. Getting past a little processing delay will happen sooner than you think. You'll then have a lifetime together with each day a new adventure so, for now, keep in mind that each day is one day closer to when your bride arrives.

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As you know, children can be one of life's greatest rewards.  Certainly, you shouldn't rule-out any prospective foreign bride just because she is childless, for together you could do something about that.  But neither should you exclude her just because she already has children, for together you could form an instant family!  That could benefit you in several ways.  Consider having two, or more, foreign sweethearts. 

An intercultural relationship may not be for everyone.  Yet, if you will invest the necessary time, effort and money into a relationship, and be reasonably flexible, tolerant and patient, your chances of finding happiness with a foreign bride are good.  Whichever path you choose, our wish for you is that your journey will be pleasant and that you will find, in life, everything that you seek. 



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Foreign Courtship Advice and Recommendations From the Editors of A Distant Light™

Q: To a prospective foreign bride who doesn't specify an age preference, how much of an age difference might customarily be acceptable? 

A: Surveys have shown that when considering age apart from other factors, 98 to 99 percent of single Ukrainian women and single Russian women seeking marriage would readily accept a partner as much as ten years their elder.  The rate of such ready acceptance among women of the former Soviet Union declines to 50 percent as age disparity increases to 15 years. 

In predominantly Buddhist cultures of the Far East, as for example in Thailand, elder persons are revered for their accumulated wisdom.  So, some of the single Asian women seeking marriage, in particular, might accept or even welcome somewhat greater age disparities. 

For an international introductions agency to promote so-called May–December romances might be good for business, in the short term, but would it be good for you?  For the prospective foreign bride?  Around here, we believe that what's best for business is the long-term success of your intercultural relationship.  So, rather than encourage a fifty-year-old man to pursue, say, Colombian single women in their twenties, or a man of forty to chase single Latin women still in their teens, we would respectfully suggest that you listen to your own voice of reason and common sense. 

If you don't fully recognize the value in this, you might find it helpful to read A Long Way to Go for a Date, by Henry Makow.  The outcome of Mr. Makow's real-life personal adventure may surprise you.  Find it listed under Foreign Bride Resources, below.) 



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Foreign Bride Resources

A foreign sweetheart is more likely to become the foreign bride of a gentleman who demonstrates an interest in, and some knowledge of, her native culture.  A Lonely Planet ® Travel Survival Kit™ (right sidebar) can be helpful.  Besides the practical advice for travelers, they provide some historical background and discuss relevant social, political and economic aspects of modern society. 



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You can benefit from the experiences (both good and bad) of others, in the pursuit of intercultural relationships, by referring to these worthwhile additional foreign bride resources.  And remember, at A Distant Light™ we're here to help!  You can contact us by phone, fax, e-mail or postal mail, or visit us (no appointment is necessary during regular business hours) at any of the AFA offices worldwide. 


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